Sad love songs

“Thank you so much for breaking my heart because you got me four Grammys!”

Who’s having the last laugh now? Heartbreak gave Sam Smith material for his debut album In the Lonely Hour. His album was nominated for six categories in the Grammy Awards and it won four: Best Pop Vocal Album, Record of the Year, Song of the Year and Best New Artist. That’s major redemption and a middle finger at the heartbreaker.

Taylor Swift built her songbook on failed relationships. Some of the best love anthems around are based on jilted love. Does sadness and anger write the best love songs? I believe so. When your heart is ripped up so badly, you become painfully aware of every single emotion. You are blessed (or cursed) with the ability to reach into the depths of despair and articulate feelings with great clarity.

When you’re down and damaged, every sad love song becomes your personal story. I didn’t go out to buy a compilation CD of Songs for the Brokenhearted. These songs just came to me because they spoke to me. Here they are, in no particular order. Has it been three years already? God, when will I have my Sam Smith moment? There has got to be a positive spin to this.

This song still makes me cry when I listen to it. I bet there are many choked up people in the audience each time she sings this.

I heard that your dreams came true
Guess she gave you things I didn’t give to you

Invisible – I feel like I’m invisible
You treat me like I’m not really there
and you don’t really care
I know this romance
it ain’t going nowhere
Invisible just like my love. You treat me like I’m invisible
When you get the need to flirt you do your worst

You just don’t care how much it hurts.

Oh, I could feel that she was almost in tears. This performance on 20 November 2011 was around the time when her marriage with Russell Brand was on the rocks. On 31 Dec, he sent her a text message divorcing her.

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don’t have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away

Whenever I’m alone with you
You make me feel like I am home again
Whenever I’m alone with you
You make me feel like I am whole again

Whenever I’m alone with you
You make me feel like I am young again
Whenever I’m alone with you
You make me feel like I am fun again

Not a sad song, but it reminded of the weekends we had. Meet on Friday, enjoy on Saturday, gone by Sunday.

All the dreams that we were building
We never fulfilled them

This was the song I sent to him when I could feel him slipping away.

I don’t want clever conversation
I never want to work that hard
I just want someone that I can talk to
I want you just the way you are

I could never get a straight answer out of him on why he left. “I’m not in a position to be in a relationship right now,” did not hold water, not when he was the one pushing me into the relationship, and especially not when he announced his relationship status with another just a few days later, on Facebook. Couldn’t even tell me straight to my face he was ending things.

Turn down the lights
Turn down the bed
Turn down these voices
Inside my head

Lay down with me
Tell me no lies
Just hold me close
Don’t patronize

I’m all cried out
You took a whole lot of loving
For a handful of nothing
It’s hard to give you something
When you’re pushing and a-shoving me around

And who do you think you are?
Runnin’ ’round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart
You’re gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul

Not the most apt lyrics, but I was reminded of this song by something a friend said, “Don’t let him stay rent-free in your heart, using your emotions and hurting you.”

Happier times.

Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday
I want to know
you’re gonna stay for the weekend

Our love is dead
but the dead don’t go away
They made us what we are
they’re with us every day
Our love is dead
but the dead are still alive
in memory and thought
and the context they provide


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